There are ways of doing things that are truly helpful, and there are ways of doing things that are NOT helpful. Today's discussion will go over the three key do's and don'ts of being truly of service to others and why being of service is the key to a joyful, fulfilling, and in-flow way of life.
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What It Means To "Be of Service"
When we talk about being of service to others, we are referring to helping people, and other creatures alike, in the ways that they need help. We can also in this context be referring to the higher powers and being of service to the mission, purpose, or goals that they have aligned you with. Being of service is a form of devotion and one of the highest pathways to respecting, honoring, and loving those around you. For these reasons, being of service is an incredible way to align yourself with your most gratitude-inducing reality. When you are respecting, honoring, and loving all things around you, your reality has no choice but to reflect these same, deliciously high-vibrational feelings/experiences back to you. This is the law of attraction in action.
Although we can recognize that our alignment with being of service makes space for others to be of service towards us, another key factor of true servitude is to give without expectation of any sort of return. When this sort of expectation is involved, you are no longer being of service and instead being transactional. A transactional way of being is not bad or good, it is just another form of moving energy, but when it comes to transactions, we align with receiving something of equal worth to what we are offering. When we are being of service, we make space for the universe/source/highest power to deliver us blessings beyond what our minds may say is equal in what we have given. Because of this, being of service can transform our realities in expansive ways beyond what we may have thought was possible. It allows for the ultimate flow of all things high-vibed and when you are on this frequency, you become a wide open channel for all things bountiful and beautiful.
Being of service is a true way of loving in every form, and not only will it enhance your own reality, but it will enhance the lives of every being you provide to in this way.
The Dos and Don'ts
So we know what being of service is, what it can do for you and for others, and how awesome of a path it is to journey upon, but how does one correctly, efficiently, and powerfully offer themselves in service? There are three key things to remember when wanting to serve respectfully and effectively. They may seem simple or obvious in nature, but you would be surprised at how often these general guidelines are forgotten or overlooked.
1) Find Out Exactly What is Needed
DO: Ask what is needed of you and throughly fulfill that duty
DON'T: Go outside of the perimeter of someone's expressed needs without 100% certainty that what you're doing is actually helpful.
When wanting to be helpful, we may feel called to go above and beyond and really give it our all. This is awesome and encouraged, but always make sure that your well-intended motivation is actually constructive to the situation at hand. For example, you may want to help an elderly woman who seems a bit fragile with going up a step, but perhaps she doesn't want to be touched. If approaching this situation unconsciously, you might run up and loop your arm with hers. The intention is pure, but ultimately the elderly woman is not comfortable with this form of assistance in this hypothetical scenario. Always ask before offering your service to someone or something. You may be trying to help, but sometimes things that we believe are helpful can actually be more harmful to the overall situation. Consent and conscious questioning are your best friend when being of service! You can witness our hypothetical grandmother in her struggles and verbally ask, "Hello! Is there any way I can help you?" Not only does this provide her with the opportunity to tell you what she really needs, but it ensures that YOU know that what you're doing is actually of service and constructive.
2) Focus on What You're Good At
DO: Offer service that is aligned with your skill set and leave other tasks for people who may be better fit for them.
DON'T: Attempt to help where you're not in full understanding of the task at hand, it can potentially create more work for those that actually know what they're doing.
Again, we dig into that energy of truly, authentically, and wholesomely wanting to go above and beyond for another being. Doing so responsibly requires us to know ourselves a little bit. Maybe you want to help your friend who is super tired put their tent up, but you've never put up a tent before. In the process of trying to be helpful, you break one of the poles and now their tent is damaged! (This example is based off of a true story btw) The intention was pure, but because the individual did not know what they were doing, there is now an extra cost that the owner of the tent is responsible for covering. If you are being requested to be of service with something you are not really sure how to do, speak up and offer an alternative solution for way you may fit best. In this tent situation, the individual could have offered to go find someone who did have experience with putting up tents and in this way still have been of service to the overall task at hand. Know yourself and your capabilities in order to fully honor the being you intend to be of service to.
3) Give Your All
DO: Give your full focus/attention to being of service and take a break when you're not fully up to it.
DON'T: Extenuate yourself beyond your own limits or half-ass your attempt at honoring someone/thing.
It happens all to frequently, whether we've struggled with people pleasing or are simply feeling more laid back, where we are called upon to be of service and instead of honoring that the time is not right, we begin attempting being of service anyways. At the end of the day, the best way we can help the world is by helping ourselves. Feeling tired is a sign that your cup is empty, and how can one pour into others with an empty cup? Take time to fill your cup so that you can properly serve others. When we push past our own internal boundaries, not only are we teachings ourselves and the universe that our needs don't matter to us, we are also risking the chance that we will make a mistake or not offer our best work. Service is a sacred act and requires genuine attention and care. If you are unable to provide that attention and care, your gift to the situation at hand is by taking a step back and offering your service at a later time when you know you will be able to properly devote yourself. Energy speaks volumes, and people can feel when you don't really want to be there or are not fully engaged with whatever is happening. This can create a disconnect that would not have occurred if you had respected your body's call to rest in the first place.
On the flip side, when you do have lots of energy, devote it fully! Give it all that you got and attempt to make all service the best service you've ever provided. Share your attention and care with love, excitement, and honor at having the opportunity to do so.
If you can consciously remember these three things on your path of servitude, you will be golden! Serving, being of service, is to love, and love is the greatest medicine of all! To serve is to be reborn into unimaginable states of bliss. To serve is to be one with the natural flow of all things. We highly recommend it ;)
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